Deborah and Allen Grubman tossed a veh-ry elegant kick-off reception for the Rita Hayworth Gala at their East Hampton digs to toast the efforts of both Princess Yasmin Aga Khan and Andrea Stark. “The Lady of Shanghai” is the theme at this year’s Waldorf gala on October 3, to be chaired by Andrea Stark honoring Margo Catsimatidis. For info, call 212-843-1712.